First off, I want to mention that if we, as soul and spirit, choose to experience something in life – whatever that may be – we’ll manifest it, no matter what in-reality circumstances we might come across. All of which are actually there as means for us to do what we came here to do. With or without our incarnate minds being aware of it, at any point.
In that sense, even if a child has the shittiest of upbringings, if they choose to rise above them and become their own, conscious being, they will. Likewise, no matter how good the upbringing, if the kids chooses to later on become a fuck-up, that’s what they’ll become.
However, aside from the suffering and trauma we’ve chosen to experience as part of seeing that we’re doing something wrong (when we are), we did not come here to live a life of misery. We came here to play, to learn, to grow and to experience the beauty of this life, as well as beyond it.
Children naturally know this. Pretty much all kids have a natural, unconditional curiosity through which they learn more about the world they’ve manifested in (and beyond it). This curiosity and honesty that children have never goes away. It is a part of being alive. The only thing that happens is that “adults” usually tend to forget it, in this world where the system tries to manipulate the people into becoming cogs in a machine.
With the exception of some bright teachers who go against the system and curriculum, the “education” system itself is made to try and stifle the beauty of what makes us alive, by introducing blind memorization, competition and blatant indoctrination into the minds of children. It “teaches” lack of responsibility, whining to whatever figurehead seems to be running the classroom and memorizing lots and lots of superfluous, superficial information. Most of which is highly manipulated and doesn’t even reflect the magick and nature that’s always abundant everywhere. Knowledge about even the exoteric realms is hidden.
It’s just all around indoctrination that has nothing to do with actual education. “Inductus” means “to speak into”; indoctrination literally means telling people what to believe. There is no comprehension, and all knowledge is memorized blindly, instead of actually known and questioned. Indoctrination is meant to make people into clones of a parasitic system.
Compare that to genuine education, which comes from “educo”, meaning “to bring forth from within”. In the context at hand, it means to bring forth the uniqueness and individuality in people and have it flourish and thrive, as it naturally should.
A genuine education “system” (if we’re to even call it that) is one where children are encouraged to play and to question everything. There are no grades, and aside from reading, some basic math, general utility stuff and – more importantly – self-ownership, responsibility and morality, there is no “curriculum” of which to speak.
Don’t get me wrong, though. There are going to be specialized fields in science, technology, esoterics and mysticism, chemistry, astral stuff and whatever else. What I mean is that kids should be let to study what they naturally feel inclined towards, not some arbitrary and often manipulated bullshit, like what we have today in indoctrination camps known as “schools” and “universities”.
So, this is one of the first things to do if you want to help raise a good, active minded person: don’t send them to school. Home school them or at least send them to a private school that doesn’t go by the “system standard”. Don’t worry about things like “but, what if they won’t make any money when they get older”. If you’re already stressing over plans for what the kid should do when they become adults, you’re doing it wrong. Let life be lived. Like I said, we always experience and manifest exactly what we choose, on soul and spiritual levels. They’ll be alright. Especially if what they do comes from the heart.
Besides, there are many ways to earn a living even in the manipulated “money” system that we have today. More and more open minded, usually small to mid-level businesses that still retain some element of honesty and transparency, are looking for people who have skills, not worthless diplomas. But, more than that, if kids are taught self-ownership and responsibility, chances are they’ll start their own ventures or they’ll be freelancers in whatever it is that interests them. That’s far, faaar better than doing 8+ hour jobs that do nothing but fuel corporate and other agendas.
If, for whatever reason, your kid still goes to state school, don’t stress them with pressure for exams and all that bullshit. Let them stay in school for however long or little they want, and if they want to quit, tell them it’s okay.
My younger brother, for example, wants to be a dentist and – for better or worse – he’s gonna go through university. However, he seems to actually be interested in it, and part of that is because both I and our parents (at least, ever since I helped them wake up to the idea that the system is bullshit and slavery) have been rather chill and even have no problem with him leaving school at any point.
Because of this more or less stress free environment, he’s very much interested in studying and does so on his own, learning about medicine and chemistry outside of what is in the high-school’s curriculum and beyond what is necessary for getting into university. Now, being a more artistically inclined and trouble-rousing individual than he currently is, I constantly distract him, mess up some of his stuff (in a playful way) in order to introduce some good natured chaos into the mix. And we’re both having fun while doing it.
So, that’s another thing. Have a relaxed and chill athmosphere, playful and forgiving, but with a mix of “chaos” for the balance necessary to excel. Firmness is obviously useful (just as much as nurture), but never confuse it with aggression or negative reinforcements. Positive reinforcement itself isn’t exactly “positive”, if the scope of learning isn’t the knowledge and comprehension, themselves. The latter is what’s important, not the “incentives”. Knowledge and comprehension, in and of themselves, are the “incentives” of learning. Knowing for the sake of knowing. Comprehending for the sake of comprehending. Remembering who we are beyond the veil of our incarnate personas.
That’s also another aspect of raising kids to be creative, responsible adults. Do not try to shoehorn them into any belief system. If you have any, don’t get angry with them if they disagree, no matter who’s right or wrong. Have conversations and healthy debates, not arguments. Regardless of which belief is more or less accurate (even though the notion of belief is pretty much reliant on ignorance and lack of knowledge), there is only one actually evil type of belief: the belief in so-called “authority”. That belief is the basis of all evil and degradation, because it implies doing things blindly and attempting to forsake (or, rather, forget) the very thing that makes any being genuinely alive, which is imagination and free will.
I/we, as infinite and unlimited consciousness and potential (which is everything and everythingness) always have and are free and freedom, imagination, will and intent… infinity, unlimitedness and veyond… among other things…
The worst that ever happens is that people forget that. When we choose to remember, we remember, and we more consciously step into the creativity, intuition, intelligence and freedom what we always have and are.
That is what genuine education is supposed to be. Bringing forth what is within and having it thrive and flourish.
Then, of course, there is other advice I could give, such as:
- Don’t vaccinate yourself or your kids, and don’t get pharmaceutical drugs
Vaccines and pretty much all pharmaceutical “medicine” is meant to suppress symptoms, while keeping the cause of a particular disease in place, so that you keep coming back for more “meds”. That is, at best. At worst, they’re there as an attempt to gradually degrade the human genome over time, for what is believed by the parasites to be easier population control. That’s at least several books, documentaries, interviews and articles worth of stuff to go through, just for starters.
But, if you want to inform yourself more about at least the exoteric aspects of the pharmaceutical industry, I recommend “Natural Cures They Don’t Want You To Know About” – by Kevin Trudeau. There are many others, but start with that. It talks about both alternative medicine, as well as exposes the corruption and manipulation behind the corporate and state related aspects of the big pharma agenda.
- Get your kids accustomed to nature and don’t buy them “smart”-phones
Aside from the spiritual implications of being closer to nature and such, there are also lots of health benefits, in both the short and long terms. Heightened immune system, more energy, stronger bones and muscles, more healthy growth, more balanced hormones, etcetera.
As for “smart”-phones and pretty much any device that has “smart” as part of its name, nowadays, is something that is designed to attempt to produce both psychological and chemical addiction, while also trying to normalize surveillance in preparation for “smart cities”; and, eventually, the further hijacking of the human psyche, through connection with AI. Fuck that shit! I mean, all magick and technology is inherently neutral, but in the case in question, the tech is being used for malicious purposes.
- Don’t be too strict or over-protective, but not apathetic or careless
Children grow exponentially better, both esoterically and biologically, in environments of care, love and nurture. A parent lovingly stroking a child’s head, cuddling and laughing, playfulness and all that good stuff, it all fires up the aura and neurons, promoting the child’s development.
If your kid is throwing a tantrum, don’t get mad. Or, if you do, don’t take it out on the child. Children, especially under the age of seven or ten, usually don’t know how to better communicate their thoughts and feelings. Often times, they may lash out at seemingly random things, but the immediate thing (like candy or a toy, let’s say) isn’t what they actually want. They want a parent’s attention. They want to know that mom and dad are there. You can buy a kid all the toys and fluff in the world, but none of that even holds a candle to actually being there with them. Not just physically present in the room, but I mean mentally, emotionally, spiritually and with every fiber of your being.
If they did something wrong, try to explain to them why it was wrong, and don’t feed their negative habits. If they don’t get the gist of it, just tell them things like “you’ll know when you’re older”, but never seriously say stuff like “because I say so, now shut up!” That’s just a way to get them to close off and suppress or repress themselves. That is never a good thing. Always say or imply that there is a reason why some things are good and some things are bad, so as to encourage their natural curiosity.
Also, let them think for themselves. Say what you want to say, but they need to feel and think about things for themselves.
Likewise, don’t spoil them or and definitely don’t be at their beck and call (nor anyone’s), but be there when they feel they need you. A good word. A soothing embrace. Show them that you care.
- If you’re in an unhealthy relationship, or one where the “spark” is gone between you, don’t stay together “for the kid’s sake”
When people no longer get along well, it’s always gonna be energetically noticeable, and often the stress will make itself known through the couple’s behaviour, towards themselves, the kid and others. You can tell from a mile away if someone is in a good, genuine and happy relationship. Through the way they talk, act, invoke or evoke; the way their tone shifts, how their eyes glance and sparkle, how they smile or frown, etcetera. That is, in addition to directly knowing it, intuitively or/and spiritually.
Children sense this, and if their parents are constantly having fights, hating each other – or even just not giving a shit about each other and being apathetic – the child is always gonna notice. If the kid gets the impression that those kinds of “grr” or “meh” interactions between their parents is “normal”, then (unless and until they rise above that mental programming) they’ll subconsciously attract those kinds of relationships later in life. So, it’s not good for the parents and it’s not good for the kids.
It’s much better to have separated, but happy parents, than having them stay together and constantly giving each other – and probably the kids, as well – death glares.
If you don’t want to break up because of all the bullshit surrounding a divorce, then just live separately without going through filing papers and all that crap. Find more friendly, good natured ways to go about it. Although, I mean… why would anyone invite an institution in their personal lives – or anywhere else – in the first place?
I could go on and on about specifics, but the essence of what I’m saying is, among other things: we are to love ourselves, and love each other. When we do that, and do it honestly, we’ll know what to do, as well as how to go about learning/remembering knowledge and comprehension.
So, how to help your kids have an easier time living the life that they want to live? How do you think your parents could’ve been better towards you, when you were a kid? What did they do that was bad? What did they do that was good? What did you learn from all of that?
We’re all unique individuals and we each come up with our own questions and answers. Feeling, thinking freely and always being ourselves, unconditionally.
We are all and always free and freedom, imagination, will and intent… infinity, unlimitedness and veyond… among other things…
What we choose to manifest is always a choice; and the choice is always ours.