The trait of being genuine is, among other things, a culmination and harmony between being honest with ourselves and with each other. It comes from a profound sense of self love and self respect. Therefore, since the so-called “inner world” creates the so-called “outer world”, what we feel towards ourselves we naturally tend to exhibit towards others, in both thought, feeling and behaviour, as well as other things.
Genuineness comes from knowing and comprehending ourselves, both as incarnate or manifested “characters” within the illusion of manifested reality, as well as being infinite and unlimited consciousness and potential. In other words, the more we remember and express ourselves on every levels (and beyond the idea of levels), the more genuine we are.
Here are a few characteristics of those of us who are genuine:
- Genuine people are always honest and abhor deceit
The more honest and more often someone is as such, the more genuine they are. We always speak our hearts and minds. We don’t care if you’re “offended” or not. “He who dares not offend, is never honest.” No, we don’t make it a point to provoke that kind of reaction from someone. However, if someone does have that reaction in response to what we say or do (assuming our actions don’t imply harm towards another), we don’t give a shit. Get as offended as you like. Everyone’s thoughts, feelings and actions are their own responsibility.
- Genuine people always look to improve themselves
One of the main traits of those who are genuine, is that we always look to become better in every moment, than we’ve been the moment before. Whether it be knowledge, comprehension, skill, morality or whatever other positive aspect we’re talking about, one of the principles that genuine people have is “do not be constrained by your present reality”.
- They’ll easily admit when they’re wrong, and will likewise call out others’ bullshit as well
As part of being honest with themselves and others, genuine people are open to learning from their mistakes, and know that the first step to doing that is acknowledging that a mistake was made. Likewise, and often out of a drive to help others improve as well, we call out other people’s mistakes.
- Genuine people easily admit their own capabilities and achievements, while also recognizing others’ accomplishments and aptitudes, as well
Likewise, they are rightly proud and often arrogant, but never vain. Arrogance and pride, in the conscious sense of the words, imply knowing and appreciating ourselves, with all our strengths and flaws. Vanity implies being ignorant of that, and just looking to “get off” on the attempt to trample on others. A genuine person’s arrogance may be interpreted as vanity, but that is a highly inaccurate assessment.
- They aren’t swayed by other people’s opinions
In other words, we don’t give a shit what anyone says or thinks about us. That doesn’t mean we ignore or disconsider other people’s views – quite on the contrary, we take everything into consideration. However, that’s exactly it: we consider. In other words, we ponder the quality, accuracy and whatever other traits of the information or criticism, and make a judgement on it, on our own.
- We judge ideas, knowledge and people on their own merit
That means we know it doesn’t matter how few or how many, who says or who saysn’t (if that wasn’t a word, it is now), who does or who doesn’t… in other words, we know that information and people are as they are by virtue of themselves, not by how they are believed to be, no matter how popular or unpopular someone or something might be.
- We’re always ourselves and we don’t compromise
Genuine people (and entities that are as such) cannot be bought or swayed with threats, nor with rewards. If and when we decide to change something about ourselves, our discernment, behaviour and whatever else, it is always a result of our own discernment and introspection.
- We put principles before family, friends and personal gains
Don’t misconstrue my words, though. We appreciate family and friendships, very much so, but recognize that if relationships are to be strong, honest and, well… genuine, they need to be built on principles. Otherwise, they are based on superficial things and fall apart. Likewise, we consider personal gain to be useful and aren’t against it, but we never make it a purpose in life. A tool for bettering ourselves and helping others, yes, but never a purpose in and of itself. Because we know there is infinitely more to us, to life, to consciousness, beyond the illusory world we call “material”.
Likewise with friends and family, as well as any relationships. We recognize them as experiences from which everyone involved (at the very least) has something to learn, but the relationships themselves aren’t the purpose. The purpose is to grow and help others do so, as well. To be and express ourselves consciously, and help others make the choice to do so, as well.
- Genuine people generally don’t like small talk, and especially not “fake talk”
We like people who have something to say, not those who “have to say something”. Conversation, honest and open debate, playful and meaningful banter that’s both witty and meant to engage the mind and heart, etcetera.
- Genuine people are responsible individuals
We consciously assume responsibility for everything we think, feel, say, do, are and choose, as well as whatever else. We don’t blame ourselves for others’ bullshit, and likewise, we don’t blame others for our own.
- We abhor the notions of so-called “authority”, “rules”, “laws”, etc
Since the notions imply and involve, by design, a complete and utter forgetfulness of selfhood, and an attempt to abdicate one’s own personal responsibility, along with harboring an addiction to fear and ignorance, anyone who believes in “authority” is never a genuine individual. On that note, someone who has that belief isn’t even a fully fledged individual. An order-follower pretty much renounces their expression of individuality, in favour of becoming a clone of a doctrine or system (thus becoming a slave to the ego of another), while the order-giver tries to impose it’s own rigid belief, because they’re scared shitless of things not working out as their fragile, petty little ego demands (thus, they are slaves to their own egos).
- Everyone who is genuine loves and respects freedom
Being an individual means – among other things – exercising one’s conscience, discernment and judgement, without fear or prejudice.
Freedom is infinite and unlimited potential. Freedom is everthingness; all the bullshit and evil, all the “meh”, and all the good, spiritual, intuitive, intelligent, loving, reasoning stuff, etcetera, as well as beyond. We are all and always free and freedom. If we want to manifest realities that reflect the good aspects of ourselves as consciousness, then we are to be genuine and honest, towards ourselves and towards everything and everyone. Kind, considerate, patient, calm, but also firm, angry and thunderously furious, when it matters; but that anger needs to be channeled with inner peace and conscious purpose.
Reminding ourselves, of ourselves as spirit, so that through intuition (“in-tuition”, meaning inner knowing and learning) we expand our awareness, and through intelligence we comprehend the awareness.
The mind always grows in conjunction with the heart, intelligence with intuition, and soul with spirit… and the more genuine we are, the more we grow in consciousness.
We never lose ourselves. We only ever lose sight of ourselves. To remember, we are to open our eyes and reveal ourselves, to ourselves, once more. That, as with everything, is a choice; and the choice is always ours.
Because we are all and always free and freedom, imagination, will and intent… infinity, unlimitedness and veyond… among other things…